“Gracious acceptance is an art – an art which most never bother to cultivate. We think that we have to learn how to give, but we forget about accepting things, which can be much harder than giving…”
― Alexander McCall Smith, Love Over Scotland

A great number of people are uncomfortable at receiving gifts in any form. Perhaps the unease comes from having been brought up and trained in the idea that giving is better than receiving. Instilling selflessness in the youth usually begins with lessons in sharing food, toys, and other material possessions with those who are in need.

With the holiday season, everyone will be receiving gifts, as well as giving away some. Most will be focused on the giving part while the receiving side is mostly acknowledged with a quick hug or kiss.

What is it that makes us uneasy about receiving a gift, a compliment, or appreciation?

I believe fear of strings attached to the gift could be one reason. If a past experience of receiving a present for which a favor is expected in return, then a cautious attitude is developed by the recipient. Indebtedness cannot be attached to gifts.

Receiving is an occasion to look at our “soft spots.” Being reminded that we have something tender hidden away makes us vulnerable, perhaps even embarrassed that we feel sentimental about having been remembered and appreciated by family and friends. In all relationships, the act of receiving is that of a connection, be it in our personal or professional life. Maybe that’s why women cry during a proposal of marriage.

Joy for ourselves is best expressed in allowing life’s abundance flourish by accepting gifts with warmth and grace from our family and friends. Receiving as such becomes our present to the giver.

In the Christian tradition, Jesus was the finest recipient of gifts but He also exemplified the best giver when He gave his life for mankind.

Written by Yoli P.- The Help