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Feb15

The Psychology Behind Doing Good Deeds

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The Psychology Behind Doing Good Deeds

We have all heard about previous studies that suggest that those who do good deeds have better physical and mental health compared to those who don’t spend as much time helping others. Finally, we have scientific proof. A recent study reveals that there are science-backed benefits to helping others. 

During the pandemic, we experienced a surge of charity and generosity from people around the world who have gathered donations, volunteered their time, and pooled together resources to help those who were more challenged through the global pandemic. There were a lot of donations, volunteer work, contributions, and over-all acts of kindness, especially during the early months of the year when we were at peak pandemic struggles. A lot of people lost their livelihoods and jobs and had to rely on the kindness of strangers in order to put food on the table. Now, things are slowly going back to normal and we are steadily getting back on our feet. 

Kindness is important for a society to function. Lead author Bryant P.H. Hui, Ph.D., a research assistant professor at the University of Hong Kong has this to say about doing acts of kindness. “Prosocial behavior — altruism, cooperation, trust, and compassion — are all necessary ingredients of a harmonious and well-functioning society. It is part of the shared culture of humankind, and our analysis shows that it also contributes to mental and physical health.”

Why is kindness good for us?

The good feeling we get from doing acts of kindness actually has a name, it’s called “helper’s high.” It is the decrease in stress and the increase in happiness that we experience after doing a good deed. After a “helper’s high” our body experiences lowered stress response and a significant increase in protective antibodies associated with improved immunity. You can reap the benefits even for an hour after because antibody levels remained high for an hour afterward.

You don’t need to be a member of a charity organization or a part of government social work services in order to do good work. There are everyday good deeds that you can do to reap the benefits of the “helper’s high”. Here are some of them:

  • Share your old books with a public school or if you have children’s books, share them with a daycare center. 
  • Donate old toys to a local orphanage or the children’s ward of a hospital.
  • Plant a tree. Plants more than one if you’re feeling extra generous. This good deed ultimately helps future generations
  • Run errands for your parents or senior aunts and uncles. They pay in great stories.
  • Send a casserole (or any food) to your neighbor so they won’t have to think about dinner for one night.
  • Send food packs to a school’s services and utility team.
  • Leave a generous tip for your delivery person.
  • Send pet food to a pet sanctuary. They always need it.
  • Send bread to a hospital, or better yet send sandwiches. These places are very busy and people rarely have time to sit down and eat

What are your good deeds for the year? Share them with us in the comments. Remember to work smart and be a blessing to someone today. Stay safe and healthy!

Written by Jaie O. TheHelp

Nov30

To Make a Difference, Always Choose To Be Kind

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To Make a Difference, Always Choose To Be Kind

The past thanksgiving has made us realize that we have a lot to be grateful for. It also made us realize that the world needs a lot more kindness going on: kindness not only to others, but also to ourselves. More than ever, practicing self-kindness is to be necessary in order for us to be able to help other people. Big or small acts of kindness help create ripples of happiness that people can take with them and pay forward. One simple act goes a long way.

We all have different ways to show kindness. Some show it by lending a helping hand, others by lending an ear. Others show it by doing volunteer work, while others show it by helping out in the house. Practice kindness triggers a chain reaction: make someone else’s day better, and they in turn feel good about themselves and try to make someone else’s day better. Here are some ways you can practice kindness.

  1. Be generous – it doesn’t have to be a grand gesture of generosity. Making the family’s favorite dinner. It can also be giving a bit of your time to a neighbor or a friend to help out where you can.
  2. Compliment someone – pick a trait that you admire in someone and tell them what you admire about them. Watch them glow in appreciation.
  3. Practice gratitude – we take for granted the words “thank you” and we don’t say it enough. Always say thank you whenever you can and show others how grateful you are for their presence in your life. Also practice gratitude for simple things, such as good food, great friends, and good health.
  4. Lend a helping hand – don’t think twice, offer to help. Helping others has a twofold effect. It benefits the recipient and also makes us release feel-good hormones, so we actually do feel good about helping. If you’re feeling a little blue, try lending a helping hand.
  5. Be a good listener – these are trying times for everybody. If you feel that you are just one person who can’t make a difference, start with being a good listener to someone who is struggling. You might not know it, but it makes a huge difference and that person will appreciate you for it.
  6. Tell a joke – lighten the mood whenever you can. It won’t hurt to crack a joke or two, nobody needs to be serious and talk about gloom and doom all the time. We get it, there’s a pandemic. But a little laughter would go a long way. We’re all stressed enough.
  7. Rally behind a good cause – pick a cause, organization, or movement that you really believe in and get behind it.
  8. Show appreciation – when someone does something good for you, don’t forget to tell them that you appreciate it.

We need more kindness in the world, don’t you think so? Have you seen extraordinary acts of kindness going around? Share them with us in the comments. Remember to work smart and be a blessing to someone today. Stay safe and healthy!

Written by Jaie O. TheHelp